Does everything happen for a reason?


I think all of us must have already heard that saying a thousand times. I spent most of my life thinking about it, wondering if every single thing that's happening in this world comes with a reason. Most of the  time, it's a topic that's fun to think about. 

Say that you didn't get the job that really you wanted, only to find out that the company closed down after 5 months. It's easy to say, wow I didn't get that job because it was going to be taken away from me within a very short time anyway. But what about the person who got the job? Does it mean that he deserved what happened? 

Personally, I also have my fair share of experiences that made me want to believe that everything happens for a reason. But of course, there are still a number of things that happened which I don't understand. I can't figure out why it happened. My mind goes in circles thinking about it. Sure, saying that this happened for a reason feels comforting and reassuring. I feel more determined that there will be better days, that it wasn't just for me. But what if it ends there? What if the world suddenly turned its back and just forgot about me? What if I never find out the reason? 

As I think about it again and again, I realised that this saying would probably offend a number of people. Saying that everything happens for a reason would be really unfair to those who are hurting, people who lost somebody because of murder or a natural disaster. What about those people who lost their lives on 9/11? Or the children who lost their lives because of a gun man? Can anyone come up with a good reason why those events happened?

Scientists have come up with several theories about this (if you would like to read my favourite one, here's the link) but I won't talk about it here because I don't wanna pretend that I know exactly what I'm talking about. People have different perspectives about this saying, and I guess what I'm trying to say is, at the end of the day, we all just want the answers to our 'why' questions. 

Until now, I'm still undecided whether I believe that there's a reason for everything. From time to time, maybe I would be lucky to get some answers. If not, then maybe it's just the world's way of saying "Toughen up, life is unfair. Get over it"

What about you? Do you think everything happens for a reason?

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9 comments :

  1. Well, of course everything happens for a reason, or it wouldn't happen. I mean, you dont get the job because you dont match the profile, and the company goes bankrupt because its run out of money. I hate that expression because it is too obvious.

    BUT, if those things happen because there is a superior hand that leads your life called fate, I don't know.

    I think we like to believe in fate when the randomness of circumstances matchs with the fate that WE would like to have for ourselves. So, basically I dont believe that "everything happens for a reason". Great post, I like how you exposed it :)

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  2. I have used the saying for years too, and I find it to be comforting when things don't go as planned.

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  3. Yes i would say everything happens for a reason. However, like you said yourself, life is unfair. So, i think what is important to note is that while it has been said that 'everything happens for a reason' who ever said it was a good or fair reason?

    Lovely post, this has really made me think. i may have to blog about all the thoughts i just had and not end up writing a whole long post as a comment lol

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  4. Ever since I found out I can't have kids, I don't believe this saying. I think sometimes really bad things happen to good people and vice versa. People gain strength from thinking that God or some other superior force like karma is in control. But sometimes I think that there is no reason. Life isn't always fair and thats just the way it is.

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  5. This is fabulous and I could not agree any more. Very well written :)

    xo Shane

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  6. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. That does not mean that everything that happens is for the best. I think that what it does mean is that your life experiences are the one that for whatever reason you are meant to have.

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  7. I love your blog. Very inspiring posts.

    Harriet x

    arushoflove.blogpot.co.uk

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  8. I always say to myself that everything happens for a reason. I've had some situations that had happened because there was something better in my life. But it is true what you say about the lives that are lost because a murder or something like that. :S

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